What turns me on in men: when he knows how to joke and isn't afraid to laugh at himself, confidence without showing off (this is a rare species, almost like a unicorn), when he knows what he wants and acts on it, the ability to give compliments that make me smile at the screen. What turns me off in men: when their sense of humor goes for bread and never returns, when he writes hi and disappears for 3 days like a ghost, confidence at the level of “I’m the best,” but no evidence has yet been found.